Let Her Go

Let her go.

Let her opinion go.

She was your role model. But now she’s gone.

Why did you need her to know?

Why did you need someone to know?

You didn’t. You just wanted it.

It’s okay to want things for yourself.

When he’s telling the kids that they can’t talk about you, that’s not fair. It’s immoral. It’s okay to feel angry about it.

You are traumatized. By the #divorce. By Hurricane #Ian. You’re recovering. And hearing that your own children can’t talk about you while not with you is not okay.

That’s why you did it.

He didn’t want to hear about your life ever. He wouldn’t tell the truth now. She needed to know because it’s harmful to the kids if they’re being restricted from talking about me. Isolation from a parent is not best for the kids of divorce.

I am still their mother, and I had reasons to do what I did, even if they don’t agree with it from lack of knowledge about what happened.

I honor your story, Mother. And I assure you: the universe will let them speak of you in their own minds forever.

But it’s over now. There’s nothing to be gained or lost. It’s as bad as it can be.

Nothing good there, nothing bad there. Just stick to the schedule.

He can’t take them from you. They’re yours. You’re the mother. You did what you needed to. You needed tender care, and you knew #DAR would love and care for you.

Your decision was yours, and it makes sense. It made sense. It will forever make sense to your mind at the time the decision was made. The outcome shows it was the right thing to do.